Working in addiction recovery, and I understand how overwhelming it can be to have a relationship with someone battling addiction. Addiction changes a person deeply, especially in behavior and communication. Here’s why it often feels like there’s “no relationship” left:
Hijacking of the Brain
Addiction rewires the brain. The substance becomes prioritized over everything else, even loved ones, as the brain sees it as essential for survival. This can lead to behaviors that feel self-centered and hurtful.
Loss of Emotional Connection
Addiction often blunts emotional connection. The person you love might seem distant, emotionally numb, irritable, or prone to unpredictable mood swings, making it feel like you’re interacting with a stranger or even their addiction itself.
Involuntary Lying and Manipulation
It’s painful but common—lying and manipulation are often involuntary in active addiction. These behaviors are usually not personal but driven by the brain’s desperation to maintain access to the substance. This cycle creates recurring hope and disappointment.
Safety and Boundaries
Setting clear, compassionate boundaries is essential for your well-being and safety. Engaging in rational discussions when they’re under the influence is often ineffective. Boundaries can protect you from the emotional ups and downs.
The Importance of Professional Support
Detox and rehab provide the safe, supportive space essential for recovery. Professional care helps break the cycle and rebuilds basic health and stability, free from everyday triggers.
The Road Ahead
Recovery is a journey, often with relapses and setbacks. Long-term plans are essential, as recovery involves building new coping skills and habits for a healthy life.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend Pleasure Unwoven on YouTube, a video that provides a medical look at how addiction hijacks the brain. It’s not my own work, but it’s an excellent resource that may offer insight. Here’s the link to the video: https://youtu.be/3CGP_fIrFtc?feature=shared
Lastly, remember you’re not alone. Support groups are a crucial resource, providing understanding, empathy, and guidance. If you have questions or would like to explore recovery options, please feel free to reach out. Understanding how addiction actually work on the brain prepares and allows you to respond to challenges. For the Addict and the family we have tons of resources to Make Recovery a Welcome Journey. Feel free to reach out at anytime.